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When A Woman Looks Like God

A friend recently lost a baby through a miscarriage. When she told me, I was really sad for her. So sad it was a bit difficult for me to find the consoling words for a situation such as this. To be honest, I had no feelings for the baby or foetus to be more precise, I was rather totally engaged by the idea of the pain she went through while all that blood was flowing out of her unchecked.

A life time of bad films has conditioned me to the idea that a miscarriage is always a painful process. The accompanying discharge of blood is just to underline the pains right? I am a curious person by default, but it is serous disgrace to that esteemed society of curious folks around the world that I still don't know if it is possible to have a painless miscarriage or a bloodless one.

My friend's reaction to her loss is what really got me thinking about how women really feel about kids. You could see her sadness oozing out of every pore in her body like sweat dripping out of an obese man forced to use the stairs to the eleventh floor office on a hot day. And the words coming out of her were so heavy with grief you could literally grab them as they come out her mouth. The kind of grief you could feed to a band of kids tripping on LSD at a wild rock party and have them docile in no time like a man feeling the effects of an overdose of sleeping pills.

Using words to capture her sadness is just beyond me. But the impression she left me with, scared me into a realisation about how women see themselves as gods.

To them, the act of giving birth to a child, is equal to the act of creating a life. Just like God did when he created Adam and Eve as written in the Christian Bible. And God did it just once, while women can do it over and over again in a short life time. It's no surprise that women have this proprietary attitude towards kids . This attitude screams;

'This kid is mine. I created it. Mess around with it and see my divine wrath descend on you!!'

I think it is because of this that we men spend too much time elevating women beyond their status in life, religion and songs. Only somebody with eternity at his disposal can realistically embark on compiling all the songs men have sung in honor of women in the last 100 years.

The church even took this insane glorification of women to equating women to deities. Take the Catholics for instance. Mary the mother of Jesus, is not just the mother of a man who grew up to do remarkable things. She is the mother of God! There are countless organizations in the church dedicated to worshipping Mary.

Google 'immaculate conception'  and see the lengths men would go to elevate that woman to the status of a God.

How did man come to this?

Sometimes I suspect a childhood spend observing your mother swing from a loving mum who will do anything to protect you, to a boiling pot of fury punishing us for doing what kids normally do has left a large imprint of confused feelings in our collective psyche. The way we are confused about our feelings for God.

We love Him.

We are scared of Him.

So we worship Him because we need that love.