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Domestic Violence And Abuse In Marriage

Domestic/spousal abuse is the main reason why some marriages fail these days. Women especially run out of their marriage because of domestic abuse. Domestic abuse, also known as spousal abuse, occurs when one person in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to dominate and control the other person. Domestic abuse that includes physical violence is called domestic violence.

Domestic violence and abuse are used for one purpose and one purpose only: to gain and maintain total control over you. The subject of physical and emotional abuse in marriage is difficult to address because spouses cannot usually agree as to what it is.

Physical abuse is easier to define than emotional abuse because there are bruises to prove it. But even a spouse who seriously injures or even kills the other spouse during a fight can justify his or her behavior as self- defense, not abuse. And the courts often see it that way too, particularly if women are the ones doing the killing and maiming.

Abusive behavior usually begins when a couple tries to resolve a conflict the wrong way. Instead of finding a solution that meets the conditions of the Policy of Joint Agreement (never do anything without an enthusiastic agreement between you and your spouse), an effort is made by one spouse to force a solution on the other.

Resistance to the proposal is matched by increasing force until the spouse browbeats the other into submission. Every fight is an example of abuse because it uses the tactic of emotional or physical force to resolve a conflict instead of respect and thoughtfulness.

Domestic violence has become more rampant as we read in the news how couples kill one another, a man kills his wife and vice versa. In an African society, women face domestic violence and they choose to bear the pain instead of running out of the marriage for fear of what people will say about them. Women get the blame for a failed marriage in Africa, if a woman leaves her husband’s house, she will be termed as a slut.

They don’t care about what she may have been facing while living with the man.

The question is:

Should a woman stay back in a marriage where she suffers physical abuse, or leave and face the scorn of outsiders?

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