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Stop Trying to Please Everybody, You Are Not Pizza

A life spent ceaselessly trying to please people who are perhaps incapable of ever being pleased, or trying too hard to always be seen as doing “what’s expected of you,” is a sure road to a regretful existence. First and foremost, you are not obligated to live up to everyone’s expectations.

Life is under no obligation to give us what we expect. And you are under no obligation to give others what they expect. Period. Do things because you care. Do things because you know it’s right. Don’t just do things because everyone else expects you to. When we worry about what other people think, we let them control us.

We waste a lot of time and energy trying to figure out what other people want us to be and then try to become what they want us to be. Worrying about what other people think is dangerous, because we’re more likely to cave in to criticism. It means we don’t always do the right thing; instead, we do the thing that everybody wants us to do. Rejection will not ruin your life. It hurts, sure. It’s not fun. It’s uncomfortable.

But rejection will not ruin your life unless you let it. You get to learn from your mistakes without unnecessary third-party pressure. – You’re going to mess up sometimes. But the good news is, as long as you’re listening to your intuition, you get to decide how you’re going to mess up. Which means you get to decide how you’re going to live and what you’re going to learn along the way. No one knows you better than you know yourself.

How you seem to others and how you actually are, rarely match. Even if they get the basic gist of who you are, they’re still missing a big piece of the puzzle. What other people think of you will rarely contain the whole truth, which is fine. So if someone forms an opinion of you based on superficiality, then it’s up to them, not you, to reform those opinions. Leave it to them to worry about.

You know who you are and what’s best for you. In the end, happiness is simply living your life your own way. There comes a time when your back is up against the wall and you realize all you can do is say, “Screw it, I’m doing things my way!” That’s the earth-shattering moment you stop planning for someone else expectations, and start making progress on what’s truly important to YOU.

That’s when you begin to live life according to your own morals and values. That’s when you can finally be at your happiest.

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